Many people tend to expect a lot from a future trip, make large-scale plans and think over almost every step they take (choose places to visit, look for the most exotic local dishes that they would like to try, choose the best angles for future photos). But, unfortunately, most often, fantasies, thought out to the smallest details, remain unrealizable or are smashed to smithereens against a reality that is not privy to your plans.
All those places that are so vividly and beautifully described in guidebooks are overcrowded, and when you look at them in real life, you can understand that you were expecting too much, and this "amazing cathedral of the early Middle Ages" does not satisfy any of your aesthetic needs. Sunny weather and unprecedented heat, unusual for these latitudes, which all the local media talked about incessantly, in fact, may turn out to be pouring rain and an abnormal cold for this time of year. Locals can constantly be rude to you, and in the first hours of a long-awaited vacation, you can lose your phone, and your wallet can be stolen.
In the end, while on vacation, you can get sick, get lost several times, have a bad romance that will leave your heart broken for years to come. And on the last day, they may call you and say that your flowers, left for the vacation of irresponsible friends, were not followed, and now they look more like a landscape of a dried Sahara than a jungle saturated with moisture. There are a million reasons why your vacation might not meet your expectations. Bad luck happens all the time to everyone, even the most optimistic travelers with no prejudices. But why is this happening?
We are waiting for too much
Perhaps everyone came across comparisons of the reality of vacation and its expectations, this topic is eternal for all kinds of jokes and pictures. The main reason for these photos is that we overestimate the upcoming vacation. If you have an idea of the ideal place, the ideal pastime, and a bunch of other “perfect” things, then any imperfect little thing can knock you off your rut. We can give you some advice: you should not, for example, prioritize such a characteristic of your destination as desertedness.
Suppose you were inspired to visit a certain place by a beautiful picture on the Internet, which was accompanied by a rather tempting description containing the words: "desertedness, untouchedness, lack of tourists." But after all, a million more people have access to this beautiful picture, and it will inspire thousands to visit this place. So you shouldn't pack your things for a travel place just because it seems empty and secluded. It should also not be forgotten that interested people are investing a lot of money in promoting places that are attractive to tourists. Know how to distinguish between winning PR moves and real and reliable descriptions. Go on trips to expand your horizons, break the boundaries in your head, get out of your comfort zone. Look for things on travel that can improve you, make you better, and build your character. Try to feel the atmosphere of the place, see the life of people on the other side of the world from the inside. In the end, you will understand that we are all human, and we are not so different from each other, and the boundaries between you and the world will begin to blur.
Destination is not to blame for your disappointment
If your trip feels like a huge lump of disappointment, don't blame the location. Your pile of unreasonably high expectations is to blame. Planning and building a vacation, focusing on pictures on the Internet, is the secret of disaster and complete failure, and, accordingly, the collapse of your dreams and illusions. For example6 do not think that a trip to Paris will certainly be extremely romantic, shrouded in an aura of love and beauty. In real life, Paris is a kind of capital of tourism, and with it huge tourist groups, overpriced food and rude locals who do not like foreigners. However, all this has not yet prevented people from fully enjoying their vacation in Paris, and even falling in love with it and continuing to visit it regularly.
When this approach is extended to all aspects of life, it can start working against you. Approaching everything new with absolutely no expectations is not as good as it might seem at first glance.
So how do you balance the high expectations of your upcoming vacation and the harsh reality of your destination without becoming pessimistic in your day-to-day life?
Just go with the flow
By staying flexible and open-minded, you can always be prepared for the adventures and surprises that may come during your vacation. However, don't let adversity ruin your trip. Remember that everything that is not done is for the best. You should not take everything that upset your plans as a failure. Think of it as a challenge or excuse to tell your friends a fun new story, not a sign of a lost journey.
Allow yourself to make a revelation. Don't expect the perfect trip. Nothing in this world is perfect. Many people make the mistake of living in anticipation when, instead, they can spend incredible time enjoying the moment.
